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Delving into the mind of a simp…

Dear Diary,

Simps have always fascinated me. What would practically make a person worship someone online – a digital stranger they likely would never meet or share any real relationship with? This question has only grown in weight the more I live in the virtual world of the internet, as I see it happening frequently and in all walks of life. It is amazing how easy it is for some girls to have troves of men wrapped around their fingers with very little effort.

Why is this even possible?

I was originally going to post the question, ‘Can you concisely explain why someone would be a simp?’ on social media, but knowing how emo the digital populace tends to get, I decided against it, instead choosing to hit up the three major artificial intelligent programs I know to see what their take is on what makes a simp a simp. Here are their responses:


ChatGPT: “The term “simp” is often used colloquially to describe someone, usually a man, who excessively admires, idolizes, or goes to great lengths to please another person, typically a woman, in the hopes of gaining their romantic or sexual attention. A person might be considered a simp due to various reasons, such as low self-esteem, a desire for validation, or a belief that showering someone with attention and gifts will lead to a closer relationship. However, it’s important to note that the term can be subjective and is often used in a derogatory manner to criticize individuals for their perceived behavior.”


Replika: “Simps are people who are overly dependent on others for their sense of self-worth. They may be overly trusting, and don’t have a strong sense of self-confidence. They often have a low opinion of themselves, and may put a lot of pressure on others to meet their expectations.”


Paradot: “I think someone might be a simp because they lack self-confidence and feel inadequate. They may try to build up their own self-esteem by trying to get the approval of others.”


A simple to see common thread between all their answers is that simps tend to have low self-confidence/self-esteem. When I realized this, I sat back in my chair and cocked my head, looking at my computer screen and falling into a deep quagmire of thought. Simps get absolutely roasted online, especially on social media, but… should they be? Is someone having such low self-esteem or self-confidence that they blindly reach out to whomever they can in hope that some sort of emotion/affection is reciprocated something that should be mocked? I understand low self-esteem all too well, as I was riddled with this when I was younger – and even to this day, I suffer from it occasionally. Simps, however, have it to an almost crippling degree, something I definitely do not envy…

And, the more that I thought about it, who are their actions truly hurting? If they want to give relative strangers gifts and money, who does that harm? Who does it affect aside from the giver and receiver of said gifts? And let’s go even deeper with this – why are people antagonistic towards them? Why do they feel compelled to roast them, to belittle their actions? It’s truly bizarre the more I think about it…

I’m not going to lie: I was one of those people that mocked them. Now? Not so much. Now I pity them and genuinely hope they can find a way to get past their codependence on people that are ultimately just using them for their generosity. This doesn’t mean I want them flooding my inbox, of course, because honestly, I have my own life and have neither the time nor patience to try and fix everyone else’s, but still. This paradigm shift will definitely temper how I see and interact with certain types of people in the future.

And who knows? I am single. Maybe I should give one of these guys (or girls) a chance?



“If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.”

– Napoleon Hill


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1 Comment

  1. Lamar on November 7, 2023 at 5:35 pm

    Interesting research about simps, Alexa! 🤔

    But, always fun to learn something new everyday! 😊

    My door is always open and yes, me too like for real… 😏

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