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Sex in books, my quickest Twitter ban yet, and sending about a dozen noods! 😳

Dear Diary,

I’ve never understood why people object to reading about sex in books. I was writing the other day, listening to one of my favorite podcasts, (Writing Excuses – Self Publishing Episode), and the book of the week they suggested was a billionaire romance that was described as clean – one that contained zero sex. The recommender went on to mention that the story still had heat, just no sex. This made me stop typing and sit back in my chair. It’s a mystifying concept to me, and also probably one of my biggest pet peeves about adult literature. And movies. Any form of entertainment, really.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not talking about full-blown pornography, or even erotica. I’m simply curious why some authors don’t write about sex at all. I mean…

  1. That’s not very cash money, yo. 😅
  2. It’s completely unrealistic.

I mean, we’re humans. Much of our biology is centered on the sex act, and the biological imperative we feel is undeniable. They say sex sells, and the reasons for this are so obvious I’m not even going to insult your intelligence by listing them here.

So when an author writes a story with zero sex, no sexual attraction, or even a few moments of romance or eros, it always makes me scratch my head. How is that in any way realistic? How can you completely leave such a huge part of human nature out of something that is supposed to be a mirror of life? I mean, I understand when the stories are short and focused on a specific situation (like many of the stories in my Dark Jubilee series on Patreon) but full-length novels intended for young adults and adults? I dunno.

It just seems weird.

Sorry for the rant. It’s just always been something that perplexed me.

Moving on to my personal life…

Twitter banned me, yo! And I don’t mean some sort of weeny-ass shadow ban that I get all the time (your girl has a mouth… or, I guess, fingers… whatever) that gets her in trouble all the time. I stay getting lightly banned on social media on a regular basis. It doesn’t even phase me anymore. This time, though… this time was a bit different.

The Breonna Taylor decision was just announced. I was (as were most people) floored. I mean, those motherfuckers literally got away with murder. It’s an insult on several levels and makes me not only furious but deeply ashamed to be an American. Is this really what our country is about? So, you know me, I immediately sent out a tweet:



Moments later, I was blacked out of my account. It was my quickest Twitter ban yet! I couldn’t tweet, respond to messages, like (heart) posts… nothing. I could see posts and DMs, but I couldn’t interact. And apparently, I wasn’t the only one. Loads of other people (mostly high-profile types, which is another thing that confused me – I am not a high-profile type) that tweeted about Breonna Taylor experienced the same thing. Not only that, but follower counts vanished or were significantly reduced. Luckily, that didn’t happen to me.

We were all floored. I wrote to Twitter immediately, of course. They had me jumping through hoops: I verified my phone number, changed my password, and sent them about a dozen noods (😂). After all that, my account was finally restored – several days later! Twitter, of course, said the tweet was not the cause of my ban, that it was merely a glitch in their system, and they would have it fixed ASAP. I dunno, though. It all seems pretty suspicious…

…Ultimately, I’m just glad to be on my favorite social media network. Which, by the way, you should be following me on. Unless your account is straight porn, I usually follow back, and I’m on damn near 24/7, so go check me out!

See you there. 🥰



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  1. Lamar on September 28, 2020 at 7:50 pm

    Oh thank goodness, it was an glitch cause it would have been difficult not having you there anymore. 😭

    I am ashamed of a lot of things going on as of lately.

    • Alexa Nichols on September 29, 2020 at 9:54 am

      Being completely locked out of Twitter would have killed me. It really is my favorite social media network. I don’t know why. And yeah, I totally get it…

  2. Richie on September 29, 2020 at 10:52 am

    We don’t have as much trouble with Twitter as we do with Facebook. Every other month, we’re banned for a month over nothing more than displaying some cleavage on a model on a book cover we’re Highlighting that day. The sad part is unlike yesteryear, you can’t actually call a human being and find out exactly why you’re being blocked on a commercial account for a month. Mark Zuckerberg should go to jail for a number of reasons, including letting the Russians attack our elections via his website, but also for just piss poor ‘customer service’.

    Ya’ hear that, Markie boy? Get off your high horse and start caring more about how you treat your customers.

    Kinky Richie

    • Alexa Nichols on September 30, 2020 at 2:35 pm

      I COMPLETELY AGREE! Facebook *really* hates me. I mean, with as much as they ban me, you would think I’m regularly leaking my sex tapes on my feed or something! 😂 I’ve been banned on Facebook for book covers, sex facts (🙄), and even responses to people who send me sexually harassing posts. And then, to add even more insult to injury, when I try to complain about said posts, I *always* get a response back that the poster violated no rules. Riddle me that…

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